The First Thing to Do When Teaching Your Child to Study: Stay Calm, Patient, and Empathetic
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Stay Calm – The Key to Maintaining Connection
Imagine this: Your child is struggling with a difficult math problem, and you’re losing patience after explaining it for the third time, yet they still don’t get it. Your voice starts to rise, the atmosphere becomes tense, and instead of learning, your child just wants to give up. This scenario is not uncommon, but it’s also not unavoidable.
Patience – The Companion for Slow Progress
Children don’t always learn as quickly as we expect. Some days they grasp concepts well, but other times they’re distracted, forgetful, or struggle with things you think are “obvious.” In these moments, patience prevents study sessions from turning into arguments. Remember that every child has their own learning pace. Your child may need time to process information, or your explanation might not yet suit their needs. Instead of rushing, try breaking lessons into smaller, digestible parts, encouraging questions, and always praising even small progress. A simple phrase like, “It’s okay, let’s try again together!” can motivate your child more than you realize.
See Things from Your Child’s Perspective – Understand to Support
Have you ever wondered what your child is thinking while sitting at the study table? They might find the assignment too hard, fear making mistakes in front of you, or simply be exhausted after a long day at school. If you don’t put yourself in their position, it’s easy to overlook these feelings and unintentionally create distance.
Staying calm, patient, and empathetic doesn’t come naturally, especially when you’re dealing with your own pressures. Here are a few tips to practice:
• Prepare mentally: Take a few minutes to relax before teaching to avoid bringing work stress into the session.
• Set realistic expectations: Don’t expect instant understanding; treat each session as a chance for both of you to learn together.
• Acknowledge effort: Praise your child for trying, even if the results aren’t perfect.
Conclusion
Teaching your child to study isn’t just about imparting knowledge—it’s also about building a closer bond between parent and child. The first and most important thing to do is to stay calm, patient, and empathetic. When you manage this, not only will your child learn better, but you’ll also feel lighter and happier in your role as their guide. Start today—with a study session filled with love and understanding!
“Dad, I finished studying, and Mom didn’t scold me at all!”
My child’s words stopped me in my tracks. As a mother—and a healing expert who works with many parents—I deeply understand the struggle of juggling work, clients, colleagues, and then stepping into the role of a mom teaching her child every evening. Some days, I’d pick up my child while work was still unfinished, my mind racing with worries… yet I’d try to set it all aside to sit with them. I’d remind myself: “Be gentle, kind, and don’t yell at them.” But then, the moment they fidgeted, misread a few words, or lost focus, I’d lose patience and snap. And just like that—my child would get stressed and couldn’t learn. I’d feel exhausted and guilty. I know many parents out there—especially those balancing business and parenting—are stuck in this cycle. Your heart loves your child deeply and wants them to excel and behave well…
But your mind is overwhelmed with work, and your emotions slip out of control. The more you lose control, the more your child resists and refuses to cooperate. We are responsible parents.
But that doesn’t mean we have to carry everything—and lose our connection with our child just because we can’t manage ourselves. I’ve been there—until I learned to release my emotions. I stopped bringing exhaustion to the study table.
I learned to “be with my child” through presence, encouragement, gentleness, and patience. And something magical happened—my child became more cooperative, happier, and studying became more enjoyable than ever. If you’re also feeling impatient with your child,
if you’re a busy entrepreneur,
wanting your child to succeed but not at the cost of yelling and stress,
start by turning inward and mastering your own emotions. I did it—and I believe you can too. Parents who want to learn this simple method, please comment below!